Dealing with Difficult Times Quit The Wrong Thing Now 2 months ago   11:49

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In this episode of The Charged Life, high performance coach and #1 New York Times bestselling self-help author Brendon Burchard shares ideas for how to deal with difficult times in our lives.

This is Brendon speaking freestyle, recorded in one take without prompter or notes.


1. Set Small, Simple Daily Goals. When times are difficult, it’s easy to feel we’ve lost all personal power. So, a simple way to insert agency and progress in our lives is to set three small goals every day and work to achieve them. These can be as simple as taking a shower, going for a walk, or calling a friend. It’s not about taking over the world, it’s about directing just a tiny bit of our day until we can find our footing again.

2. Keep Perspective. Draw some strength from the truth that there have been positive, good, happy times in life and that those moments and memories can return and are with you. And remember that part of keeping perspective is realizing you are not on an island alone - there are people out there who can help you through this. Finally, remember, you are the miracle - the fact that you can choose your attention and breath and choices each day is a profound blessing. Not all is lost or negative - there is always hope and you can make new choices.

3. Ask, “What should I be learning here?” When times are tough, we often feel that we can’t understand or handle things, that we lack competence or capability. So, to shore up those feelings, be strategic and ask, “What could I learn now to better handle this stage of my life?” Develop a learning curriculum for yourself and start studying things that can help or advance your life.

4. Be Your Best Self Despite the Difficulties. When I had a brain injury, I couldn’t control my emotions and actions for a while. I felt out of control. All I could do is set the intention to be my best. I forced myself to ask, “How would my best self interact with this situation? How would I view this, go through this, support others, and grow despite it all?” Sometimes, a simple and positive intention can expand our consciousness and connection with life (and ourselves).

5. Keep Gratitude Alive. This is the time to get grateful for the choices and blessings you do have, for the people you have supporting you, for who you are and who you can become. The surest route from suffering begins at the path of gratitude.


Brendon Burchard is one of the most followed personal development trainers of our time, and he is in the Top 100 Most Followed Public Figures on Facebook. A #1 New York Times bestselling author, his books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger, and Life’s Golden Ticket. A car accident at the age of 19 inspired Brendon to turn his life around and follow his dreams to be a writer and trainer. After succeeding at that effort (he became a multimillionaire by the age of 32), Brendon dedicated his life to helping others find their charge and share their voice with the world.

Brendon's posts now reach more than 10,000,000 people per week worldwide. He is the star and executive producer of the #1 self-help show on Youtube, and his podcast, The Charged Life, debuted at #1 on iTunes across all categories in multiple countries. His seminars include High Performance Academy, the legendary personal development program for achievers, and Experts Academy, the world’s most comprehensive marketing training for authors, speakers, coaches, and online thought leaders. For these works, Larry King named Brendon "one of the top motivation and marketing trainers in the world."

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Comments 704 Comments

Noran Mohamed
Thank you for your supports and advices 👍
Its strange because the good times feel brief and fleeting. When things go wrong it just adds more weight to existience.
Alyssa Russell
When you feel like your wrong just know that you can believe in you and God will be there don't let anyone take you down because you are you.
ahmirmaster bro!!!!!!!!
2019 is the worst time of my life pls i need a psychologist
Anne-Marie Holloway
one word not mentioned is "good" to the good,be good etc...but over all he is speaking good advice.
Farzana Alam
Nobody can, neither even want to help me with my problems that I'm struggling right now. Because the people who are close to me put me in this hard situation.😔😢
Pragadeesh .S
Too much debts , moms liver disease, low income. Lost love. Unnecessary bad name in world. but still alive. Trusting God. Don’t know if I should be alive or not.
Mike Cola
"It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light"
Ishara Perera
Can't wait to see you again in heaven! #thank_you_brendon!
John Dyer
Life is very difficult. We all face storms many many times. Sometimes we bring those storms upon ourselves but sometimes we don't. Sometimes life just happens and all you can do is cry.
of course
Life is just punishing me everytime i try to get better, life knocks me down
Brandon you are awesome! I watch your videos everytime and I learnt how to be positive in difficult time. U r really true hero... 👏👏👏
Bsans banana
I don’t wanna die
I don’t wanna be alive
To all those facing hardships, I just wanna say we're all in this together and we're all gonna come out victorious and happy, together
Nadeem Leon
Same I’m tired of thinking I don’t have anybody to call
Tanya Trujillo
I used to listen to your videos all the time but I stopped but I’m glad I listened today ... i felt so empty and down.. thank you ..
Hung Sing Kwoon USA
When I broke my back and was told I would NEVER walk again, my response
to them was EFF YOU!!!!! You will never stop me from walking again.
EVER! No matter how much they tried to force me to accept my fate, I
dismissed their prognosis and declared I WILL WALK AGAIN! There was
nothing harder in life than making myself walk again. Today, as I
experience hard times, I reflect back on my tragic accident and realize,
if i can make myself walk again, I can accomplish anything I set my
mind towards. I just have to fight hard day by day and one day, I will
be where I want to be.
Omega Lol
This really helped me :) my mom is recovering from heart surgery and is not coming home for another 3 weeks. I didint know how to handle it.
ginger Jm
Question...point no.3...learning refers to learning something related to the situation being faced or learning anything in any field ?
Sonja B
I'm so tired of missing work
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Quit The Wrong Thing Now Dealing with Difficult Times 2 months ago   29:46

Special episode! I recently taught a 4-hour training on the "6 Career and Business Habits that Lead to Long-term Success." In this video, I teach you the first (and most surprising) habit: How to quit the wrong thing NOW. Find out HOW and WHEN to quit the wrong thing, so that you can focus on what really matters. Check out the training here:


Quitting isn't necessarily a BAD thing. In fact, the next level of success requires that you start sorting and deleting faster than other people. High performers leave sooner than later, creating white space for the things that really matter. Here's how to quit the wrong thing now:

#1: Identify what makes you bored or miserable, and that which makes you come ALIVE.

#2. Think legacy (and ask yourself this question)

#3. Release those who are not ready (and why this one requires a LOT of courage)

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Brendon Burchard is the world’s leading high performance coach, the most requested motivational speaker of his generation, and one of the most-watched, quoted and followed personal development trainers in history. He is also in the Top 100 Most Followed Public Figures on Facebook, with over 10 million fans across his pages, and the star of the web's most shared non-scripted personal development videos (now over 100 million views).

2,000,000-plus students have completed Brendon's online courses and video series. He's now created 13 blockbuster online courses in personal and professional development, including the most popular motivation course of all time. For these results, produced courses with him and named him “one of the most successful online trainers in history.” Success Magazine named Brendon “one of the Top 25 Most Influential Leaders in Personal Growth and Achievement.”

A #1 New York Times, #1 Wall Street Journal, and #1 USA Today best-selling author, Brendon’s books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger and Life’s Golden Ticket. His book The Motivation Manifesto is the bestselling title on motivation of this decade.

The first season of Brendon's podcast THE BRENDON SHOW (formerly The Charged Life) debuted at #1 on iTunes across all categories.

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