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In this episode of The Charged Life, high performance coach and #1 New York Times bestselling self-help author Brendon Burchard shares ideas for how to deal with difficult times in our lives.

This is Brendon speaking freestyle, recorded in one take without prompter or notes.


1. Set Small, Simple Daily Goals. When times are difficult, it’s easy to feel we’ve lost all personal power. So, a simple way to insert agency and progress in our lives is to set three small goals every day and work to achieve them. These can be as simple as taking a shower, going for a walk, or calling a friend. It’s not about taking over the world, it’s about directing just a tiny bit of our day until we can find our footing again.

2. Keep Perspective. Draw some strength from the truth that there have been positive, good, happy times in life and that those moments and memories can return and are with you. And remember that part of keeping perspective is realizing you are not on an island alone - there are people out there who can help you through this. Finally, remember, you are the miracle - the fact that you can choose your attention and breath and choices each day is a profound blessing. Not all is lost or negative - there is always hope and you can make new choices.

3. Ask, “What should I be learning here?” When times are tough, we often feel that we can’t understand or handle things, that we lack competence or capability. So, to shore up those feelings, be strategic and ask, “What could I learn now to better handle this stage of my life?” Develop a learning curriculum for yourself and start studying things that can help or advance your life.

4. Be Your Best Self Despite the Difficulties. When I had a brain injury, I couldn’t control my emotions and actions for a while. I felt out of control. All I could do is set the intention to be my best. I forced myself to ask, “How would my best self interact with this situation? How would I view this, go through this, support others, and grow despite it all?” Sometimes, a simple and positive intention can expand our consciousness and connection with life (and ourselves).

5. Keep Gratitude Alive. This is the time to get grateful for the choices and blessings you do have, for the people you have supporting you, for who you are and who you can become. The surest route from suffering begins at the path of gratitude.


Brendon Burchard is one of the most followed personal development trainers of our time, and he is in the Top 100 Most Followed Public Figures on Facebook. A #1 New York Times bestselling author, his books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger, and Life’s Golden Ticket. A car accident at the age of 19 inspired Brendon to turn his life around and follow his dreams to be a writer and trainer. After succeeding at that effort (he became a multimillionaire by the age of 32), Brendon dedicated his life to helping others find their charge and share their voice with the world.

Brendon's posts now reach more than 10,000,000 people per week worldwide. He is the star and executive producer of the #1 self-help show on Youtube, and his podcast, The Charged Life, debuted at #1 on iTunes across all categories in multiple countries. His seminars include High Performance Academy, the legendary personal development program for achievers, and Experts Academy, the world’s most comprehensive marketing training for authors, speakers, coaches, and online thought leaders. For these works, Larry King named Brendon "one of the top motivation and marketing trainers in the world."

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Comments 704 Comments

Jerson Paolo Carpio
What if your strength is also your weakness .. Anyways Thanks for this Video , it helps alot :) ..
Nur Sabrina Risman
I seeing this video with tears...i've been scold by team mates at work because i still a slow learner even 6 month in this team. I admit it. But it so harsh for me, everyday i been keep push, run with the due a decision even at last,my decision all useless and be scold again. I feel really depress now...less sleep,no apetite and everytime feel anxiety. No appreciation even once....i cry again.
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upamanyu kashyap
Are these going to work if we have to work 16 hours a day? Even on sundays
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Pran Chhiber
Thank you, Brendon
Mandeeq Ahmed
Thank you so much I can listen to you all day ❤❤❤❤
R Adhalapure
The worst thing is i feel so helpless, i want to do so many things, but don't know how to start?, Complicated family relations, financial, personal issues frustrating me alot, i always looking for miracles but they never happened to me, i want to solve all the complications but they are beyond my control.. mere think I and thinking doesn't solve any problems .. but make it more severe
Thomas Norton
You inspire me so much through all of my hard times, Brendon!
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thank you . you saved my life
I am going through the hardest time of my life right now. My dad attempted hanging himself at home 6 weeks ago. My mom wasn't home and when my sister and I heard weird noises, we went into that room and found him. We saved his life but it still is just so very hard. My dad always said that he'll always be there for us and he's never going to leave us. I was just never so scared in my life before and I just want things to be like they used to be
Mildred Harrison
Everybody have Thier own Coping skills No Thank u sir.
Riley Hope
Life is so hard. So many things in my plate right now. I rewatch Shawshank when I am down in the dumps.
Mark Lim
I'll most likely going to lose my home because I haven't paid my amortization for 2months now. I haven't been employed for almost 2years despite my consistent effort of applying and preparing for interviews. I feel like a huge failure and it's so hard to find the positive in my situation. Even though I am in this situation, I still think that others have it worse than me and that they deserve more than I do. I just wish someone would take the risk in hiring people who would do everything to be successful and who's passionate in helping others. We just need a break... I hope we find it.
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Quit The Wrong Thing Now Dealing with Difficult Times 6 months ago   29:46

Special episode! I recently taught a 4-hour training on the "6 Career and Business Habits that Lead to Long-term Success." In this video, I teach you the first (and most surprising) habit: How to quit the wrong thing NOW. Find out HOW and WHEN to quit the wrong thing, so that you can focus on what really matters. Check out the training here:


Quitting isn't necessarily a BAD thing. In fact, the next level of success requires that you start sorting and deleting faster than other people. High performers leave sooner than later, creating white space for the things that really matter. Here's how to quit the wrong thing now:

#1: Identify what makes you bored or miserable, and that which makes you come ALIVE.

#2. Think legacy (and ask yourself this question)

#3. Release those who are not ready (and why this one requires a LOT of courage)

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Brendon Burchard is the world’s leading high performance coach, the most requested motivational speaker of his generation, and one of the most-watched, quoted and followed personal development trainers in history. He is also in the Top 100 Most Followed Public Figures on Facebook, with over 10 million fans across his pages, and the star of the web's most shared non-scripted personal development videos (now over 100 million views).

2,000,000-plus students have completed Brendon's online courses and video series. He's now created 13 blockbuster online courses in personal and professional development, including the most popular motivation course of all time. For these results, produced courses with him and named him “one of the most successful online trainers in history.” Success Magazine named Brendon “one of the Top 25 Most Influential Leaders in Personal Growth and Achievement.”

A #1 New York Times, #1 Wall Street Journal, and #1 USA Today best-selling author, Brendon’s books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger and Life’s Golden Ticket. His book The Motivation Manifesto is the bestselling title on motivation of this decade.

The first season of Brendon's podcast THE BRENDON SHOW (formerly The Charged Life) debuted at #1 on iTunes across all categories.

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