How to Have a Good Conversation | Celeste How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking 2 months ago   12:07

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When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have great conversations – and most of us don’t converse very well. A great conversation requires a balance between talking and listening. This balance is important because bad communication leads to bad relationships, at home, at work, everywhere.

Celeste Headlee has worked in public radio since 1999, as a reporter, host, and correspondent. She was the Midwest Correspondent for NPR before becoming the co-host of the PRI show The Takeaway. She also guest hosted a number of NPR shows including Tell Me More, Talk of the Nation, Weekend All Things Considered, and Weekend Edition.

Celeste holds multiple degrees in music and still performs as a professional opera singer. She's the granddaughter of composer William Grant Still, the Dean of African American Composers. Celeste is an avid hiker, biker, paddler and dog walker.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx

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gaurav chhablani
Eminem be like
200 words ?... Go listen RAP GOD.
MirandaBaz Ce8
buenisimo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mouna daoudi
I'm amazed how wrong I was talking to people, and how I'm not interested to anyone cuz actually I'm not prepared to be amazed
Evangel Anyanwu
Conversation is important in our daily life in marriage, work, school, leadership skills. Great one ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Chris Toro
Processing informations
*PROCESSING INFORMATION*
Koren Reyes
Fantastic. Love you even more
Massimo Bozzi
I hate how much people interrupt. I leave most conversations unsatisfied because I end up shutting up to avoid interrupting, but most people don't return the favor.
Bren Bunes
Thank you. I listened.
Jagdamba Nautiyal
good one
Tara Keebler
I'm surpised of how good of a communicater I am
Allison Grasso
I'm struggling to understand number 8? What are "the weeds??"
Lakshmy Iyer
Brilliant!!
BuzzaB77
great talk, only just discovered it. And also astonished this advice was available BEFORE the Cathy Newman / Jordan Peterson interview!
SpitfireMustang
Notes from video:
1. Don’t be half in half out of the conversation. Be in it or out of it.
2. Don’t pontificate. Stating an opinion without the opportunity for response, argument or discussion. Enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn. Set aside your personal opinion. Everyone you meet knows something that you don’t. Everyone is an expert in something.
3. Who, what, where, when, how? Let them describe it.
4. Go with the flow. Thoughts will come and go.
5. If you don’t know, say that you don’t know. Talk should not be cheap.
6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs. If they’re talking about the time they lost a family member, don’t start talking about the time you lost a family member. If they start talking about the trouble they’re having at work, don’t start talking about how you hate your job. It’s never the same. All experiences are individual.
7. Try not to repeat yourself. It can come across as condescending and it’s really boring. We tend to do it a lot in work situations and conversations with our kids.
8. Stay out of the weeds. People don’t care about the minutiae. What they care about is you.
9. Listen. This is the most important.
• If your mouth is open you’re not learning – Budda and every Dad there ever was.
• No man ever listened his way out of a job – Calvin Coolidge.
10. Be brief.
• A good conversation is like a mini skirt; short enough to maintain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.
Be interested in other people.
Everyone has some hidden amazing thing about them.
Go out, talk to people and prepare to be amazed.
gtgrubt fgujji
2 types of conversation

Fake conversation: skilled conversationalist(most likeley like a manipulator or fake person. Like a salesperson/real estate person. Most likely study psychology to get in your head and get to know what kind of person you are.

Real conversation: someone you feel a connection with naturally(this doesnt happen with everyone its life ppl get over it. To appeal and conversate with your interest

Id rather be a real one💯 thats why i work warehouse i hate talking to people but these are fun to watch😂
theshantyman
thanks, well presented.
CCM_Hockey71
Using Bill nye as a quote..... Lol you just lost me
Solange Elkallassi
Guess both people in the conversation have to know these rules if they’re both extroverts or chatty ha
Corinne Cothern
Always be prepared to be amazed! Or as the poet/seer Rumi is said to have said, "Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment." 🌀
Maxxi Sonderbar
she's so beautiful and intelligent
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How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking How to Have a Good Conversation | Celeste 2 months ago   08:36

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Communication is the most important skill for personal and professional success. In this talk, Danish Dhamani discusses how overcoming your fear of public speaking is key to leading a fulfilling life and unlocking your true potential. Danish’s vision is to empower everyone around the world to overcome their fear of public speaking and to become a better communicator. As a first generation immigrant, for whom English is a second language, the fear of public speaking haunted Danish throughout his early life. By constant practicing and coaching, he soon realized that people are not born public speakers; instead public speaking is a learn-able skill. This is what inspired Danish to create Orai, a mobile app that uses artificial intelligence to improve your speaking ability. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx