How to stop screwing yourself over Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave 2 months ago   21:40

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Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer, and one of the top career and relationship experts in America. Widely respected for her grab-'em-by-the-collar advice and tough love, Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want. Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining. Five days a week, Mel hosts her own syndicated radio show The Mel Robbins Show, discussing hot topics and giving advice to callers across America. She is starring in a new series, In-Laws, airing this summer on A&E. In addition, she writes a monthly column for Success Magazine, is a former CNBC contributor and is the co-founder of Advice for Living, Inc., which develops products and television programming with experts in the wellness, health, relationship and career categories.

Most nights, once the kids are in bed, you'll find Mel at home with a bourbon on the rocks and her Australian Shepherd at her feet, writing about life, love and everything else on her award-winning blog:

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Hector Hawthorn
Im in love
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I need this thank you
Jenna Jones
Thank you 🤣🤗!!!!
Oscar Rodriguez
Has anyone else watched a million Ted talks and still feels the same?
Hector Herrera
You made my day
Ishraatman Atman
U speak over and over about America. U mean the continent?
Deepak Mishra
At 9:45 , was the dog taking the picture? :D . I liked the 5 seconds rule. Will start implementing the 5 seconds rule from today.
chris kazakoff
chris kazakoff
She really needs to chill dont let her anywhere near me poor DOUG
sophia jager
She said basically if you care about what you feel you don't get what you want; that actually makes sense.
Zen Kaye
Annoying! What an ego...just like her father.
David James
she changed dougs life. thats for sure
How to Save the World
How can anyone possibly enjoy this talk. She's loud and aggressive. She doesn't say anything interesting or original. I tolerated like nails on the chalk-board 7 minutes. Here's a tip for all Americans - be intelligent, novel, and interesting, not just loud.
But, doesn't the American Dream require people to not settle and basically never be satisfied?
Que pena este vídeo não ter tradução em Português
Kansei Dorifto
Truly inspirational! I'm going to work on my money now, and make triple I usually would have! I'm going to get my abs! I'm going to dominate the Minecraft Server! I'm going to conquer the Multiverse! For nothing is out of my grasp if I think it!
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Hasan Al Haidari
17:24 "I don't care about how you feel, I care about what you want" C'mon!! This doesn't make any sense. Isn't what you want often driven from how you feel? (e.g. Feeling thirsty=wanting water - feeling sad=wanting support - feeling bored=should quit this video but feeling opinionated=wanting to write a comment) You just can't stop having feelings otherwise you should just stop living shouldn't you, being screwed is part of life, we trigger feelings in others others trigger feelings in us we're all screwing each other is what you're saying? Well that's life ay!
Hasan Al Haidari
8:02 Would have been better if she said gazillion instead of trillion since she didn't care about counting the zeros!
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Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave How to stop screwing yourself over 2 months ago   11:31

Dr. Gary Lewandowski, Jr., professor of psychology at Monmouth University, makes the case that if your relationship doesn’t help you become a better person, ending it does. Leaving a bad relationship provides an opportunity for growth and learning.

Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski, Jr. is a professor and Department Chair at Monmouth University, Director of the Relationship Science Lab, and co-editor/co-creator of His well-published research focuses on the self and relationships, and his work and expertise have been featured in media outlets (The New York Times, CNN, WebMD, Scientific American Mind, USA Today). Dr. Lewandowski is also a nationally recognized teacher by The Princeton Review among its “Best 300 Professors” list.

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