How to stop screwing yourself over Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave 4 months ago   21:40

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Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer, and one of the top career and relationship experts in America. Widely respected for her grab-'em-by-the-collar advice and tough love, Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want. Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining. Five days a week, Mel hosts her own syndicated radio show The Mel Robbins Show, discussing hot topics and giving advice to callers across America. She is starring in a new series, In-Laws, airing this summer on A&E. In addition, she writes a monthly column for Success Magazine, is a former CNBC contributor and is the co-founder of Advice for Living, Inc., which develops products and television programming with experts in the wellness, health, relationship and career categories.

Most nights, once the kids are in bed, you'll find Mel at home with a bourbon on the rocks and her Australian Shepherd at her feet, writing about life, love and everything else on her award-winning blog:

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I wonder what the 10k peoplewho disliked the video were thinking.. This is so true.. take action. Within 5 seconds of the impulse. Great inspiration.
16:16 the cure of going positive. Must click it every time when I felt the low energy comes in my life. So powerful for me. Big thanks to Mel. I love you
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Good speech. Good enough to make me hope that there were no sadistic psychopaths in the audience who were contemplating committing murder for the first time... ah nevermind they can still see the video. As for that pesky emergency break; it sure sounds like a blessing sometimes, all things considered. ^.^
Damn that woman is hot.
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Decide what is desired and take 10 steps for next 10 days every day to achieve it....let me know the results
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Curios question, who & what does Mel refer to when she says "Simon and the we thing"?
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The audience can't handle her awesomeness.
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She’s great! I really loved this speech 😍 and it was totally needed!
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Loving this video Mrs. Mel. AWESOME!
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I want to be able to be proud of myself.
Jim Carey said when you feel depressed its your avatar telling you it doesn't like the character you're playing anymore - right on point with Mrs. Robbins and her theory about being stuck. It is a signal and its so obvious. I don't know why I posted this.
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Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave How to stop screwing yourself over 4 months ago   11:31

Dr. Gary Lewandowski, Jr., professor of psychology at Monmouth University, makes the case that if your relationship doesn’t help you become a better person, ending it does. Leaving a bad relationship provides an opportunity for growth and learning.

Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski, Jr. is a professor and Department Chair at Monmouth University, Director of the Relationship Science Lab, and co-editor/co-creator of His well-published research focuses on the self and relationships, and his work and expertise have been featured in media outlets (The New York Times, CNN, WebMD, Scientific American Mind, USA Today). Dr. Lewandowski is also a nationally recognized teacher by The Princeton Review among its “Best 300 Professors” list.

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