I grew up in a cult. It was heaven -- and hell. How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves 3 months ago   20:06

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Lilia Tarawa was brought up in the Gloriavale Christian Community on the West Coast of the South Island of New Zealand, where she was constantly surrounded by everyone she loved. But over time, she began to see the dark side of her community, and ultimately realised that she had to get out. In this raw and emotional talk, Lilia shares the reality of life in a cult, and her heart-wrenching journey to break free.

Lilia Tarawa is a New Zealand writer, speaker, holistic health consultant and business coach. She is a member of the Māori Ngāi Tahu tribe. Lilia was born into New Zealand's infamous religious cult, Gloriavale, and fled with her eleven family members at eighteen years of age. Her extraordinary life experience compelled her to pursue a career promoting human rights, welfare and empowerment. Lilia Tarawa is a New Zealand writer, speaker, holistic health consultant and business coach. She is a member of the Māori Ngāi Tahu tribe. Lilia was born into New Zealand's infamous religious cult, Gloriavale, and fled with her eleven family members at eighteen years of age. Her extraordinary life experience compelled her to pursue a career promoting human rights, welfare and empowerment. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

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Kemigon
Her accent is beautiful
it'sJust.Zaino Diaz
She's strong,worthy and beautiful and it breaks me to know that anyone she's ever encountered has made her feel like anything less - especially if they fell in family category and if the called themselves Christian.❤
H A
Dramatic delivery but such a well-told story. I hope Lilia finds some peace by sharing this sad story.
Odin
Damn, this is heartbreaking.
Odin
but yeah….everyone grows up in a cult. Call it Christianity, Jewish, Islamic etc. Most are born into some creed. Watch this video and believe she is talking about a popular religion? Sounds mad? very much so.
Odin
What becomes of the broken hearted?
Angelika Krawczyk
I too was beaten with a leather belt by my parents, but sadly it was a typical Polish upbringing :/
Amar Patel
Who's here after watching wild wild country 🙋‍♂️
Merwyn
I am sorry for Christchurch
Ryan Caabay
9:10 😮😮OMGGGGGGG
The1Dragonprincess
Bless her!
Cyborg Noodle
3:40 "think about a time where you achieved something really important"



me: ugh...
Natalie Gayle
I watched this a year ago and for some reason YouTube suggested it again.... anyway as I watching I realised how much she reminds me of meghan markle lol
Beau Larson
Apparently over 5,000 people don't love themselves...
Seth Dunbar
The aliens that created this planet for their science fair project got an F. The teacher was like "they're all fightin'"
Wonder
That's NOT what JESUS CHRIST taught. Holy cow. 😪😪
-a distressed, rightly angered Christian who loves Jesus
Those people better repent and get in touch with the reality of what Jesus said. Omg.
Turning everyone away from God... In the name of Christianity.
JUST READ THE BIBLE
DON'T READ SECTS AND OPINIONS
Luciérnaga Patagónica
She talks like the audience were kids....
Paul Dailey
Where do we get these MK-ULTRA drones? They have been practicing fake smiles so long that they are now just bad actors.
Matt Braun
Sounds like an Amish colony
Donut -Toast
god she's standing so tall and proud, what an inspiration
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How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves I grew up in a cult. It was heaven -- and hell. 3 months ago   14:00

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Is proclaiming your love for someone truly enough? Femi Ogunjinmi brings to light what fully constitutes an enduring, fulfilling relationship through his engaging experiences. Femi Ogunjinmi, mostly known as Gfem is a certified life coach, international relationship coach, award winning motivational speaker, and a radio talk show host who has been improving the lives of singles and couples for over ten years. He has authored two edition books titled, "Revelations of Relationship: What you don't know about finding true love and sustaining relationship." Femi earned his Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from Morgan State University and a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Benedictine University with a Certificate in Financial Management. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx