I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron The Secrets of Hostage Negotiators | Scott 2 days ago   07:29

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After growing up in painful, abusive conditions, Aaron Stark was on his way to an atrocity, until simple acts of kindness changed his life forever. What is causing the rise of violence and are our current fears and solutions just making it worse? My name is Aaron stark. I am 39 years old with 4 children, 2 cats, one dog, and a beautiful wife. I am a stay at home dad; my wife is the breadwinner of the family. I am a comic book fan, a pop culture junkie, and a lover of the sciences. I have more knowledge about superheros, pro wrestling, and comedy than anyone really has a right to. After growing up in very abusive and violent circumstances followed by over a decade if personal recovery, I am now a happy family man. I recently shred a very personal story of my triumph over my past, and it has changed my life forever. My mission is to let people know that no matter how dark it may seem, there is light coming. We really are not alone. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

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Daily Dosage Overdose
Social services failed. I wonder what the case workers think hearing this
Ash G
Wow, the fact that he wasn't that good at articulating his experience somehow made it more powerful. That hit really hard
"We have to give love to the people whom we think deserve it the least"
Hamato Yoshi
I almost became an “internet bully” but then reading through the comments made me think twice before I trigger some sensitive people...
almost sober
Ya but you dident have the balls too
Gods daughter777
Matthew 11:28-30 New International Version (NIV)

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Otinaj gaming
wow it's so sad that familys like that existed
TheBlue Gamer
I feel bad when they studder
He said he used to have a weight problem. He still seems obese.
Raggedy Anastasia
This made me so sad..
Hello faggots
7 year olds: WhO’s HeRe BEcaUse oF PyRo
god bless your soul
Positive Leonine
God bless you
Mechelle Crossan
wow fascinating insight. jeez yeah if you were his classmate you'd be sweating now lol its great he made it through the dark stuff x
Crystal Haberman
This is bringing me to tears. His story is so beautiful and shows just how strong a person can be after overcoming abuse and hate as a child GOD BLESS 💜🙏🏼
red zen
.......... parents. Not guns.
......... people. Not guns.
Aaron stark to his 4 children: i love you 3000
o o
“i’m a happy family man, i have a father of a four”
Brandi Law
Legendary xXTOTalxmaGICXx
I really want to make a joke about him being a stark from GOT but I can’t, I would feel bad for doing that🙁
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The Secrets of Hostage Negotiators | Scott I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron 2 days ago   18:21

Can you have a productive conversation with someone when you both disagree?
Learn the secrets to negotiation and conversation from a police hostage negotiator.

Sergeant Scott Tillema is a FBI trained hostage negotiator, spending over 7 years as a negotiator with NIPAS-EST, the largest multi-jurisdictional municipal SWAT team in the United States. He is also a supervisor at the Schaumburg (IL) Police Department, where he has been a police officer since 2002.

Scott held the role of adjunct professor at Argosy University – Schaumburg, teaching multiple courses in both the psychology and criminal justice programs. Through his interest in policing, psychology, and negotiations, he has developed The SECRETS Model of Negotiation, and actively teaches crisis communication to police officers throughout the Chicago region.

Scott holds a Bachelor’s degree from the University of Wisconsin with a triple major in behavioral science, political science and sociology. He also completed a Master’s degree in forensic psychology through Argosy University.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx